Better Together: Show Some Humility and Apologize

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1. the Grant Study, a 75-year-long Harvard research project on human development

From Our Lives

This week was a bumpy one for us.

We had a few disagreements and we didn’t finish all the things we had planned.

The two of us have agreed to be in a couple bubble and that means we have rules that should be followed. When one of us breaks those rules, there should be an apology and we move on, but that doesn’t always happen.

One of us loses sight of the thought: “It’s not about me, it’s about we”.

The two of us are in this together. Selfishness has no place in our relationship. Honesty about our feelings and our needs does.

When we aren’t willing to admit we made a mistake, and do whatever is necessary to heal our relationship, that is being selfish.

Learn to apologize well. So you both can return to feeling loved.

That will enable you both to be more productive and happy in life.

What We Have Been Reading

“Apologizing does not always mean that you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.”

— Anonymous


“Create a life you love. Often that means simplifying it, not making it bigger and more “amazing”. A kind word, hugging your spouse, a quiet morning breakfast, a relaxing evening.

Simple things can make your life truly amazing every day.

#marriage #sharedmeaning”

The Couple Project (Twitter)


“The cumulative effect of being a little better at decision-making, like compounding interest, can have huge effects in the long run on everything that we do. When we catch that extra occasional learning opportunity, it puts us in a better position for future opportunities of the same type. Any improvement in our decision quality puts us in a better position in the future.”

— Annie Duke, “Thinking in Bets”


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Written and published by Nathan & Kelli.


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The purpose of “The Couple Project” is to learn more about what makes a strong marriage or relationship. We share what we are learning, which ideas we are trying, and which ideas helped improve our relationship. We realize not everything that works for us will work for you, but we still hope you will find our journey valuable.

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