Better Together: Becoming the Perfect Partner.

written by Nathan & Kelli

Welcome to Better Together. The newsletter focused on showing you how amazing your marriage can be, and trying to help you get there. Each week we give you a brief glimpse into our lives and three potentially life-changing ideas to help you become a better partner. We hope that you will find this newsletter inspirational and practical.

We believe that “close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives.” [1] We believe that by strengthening marriages, and families, we can improve the world at large.

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1. the Grant Study, a 75-year-long Harvard research project on human development

From Our Lives

Kelli and I just finished writing a short set of things we plan to start doing more frequently for each other.

Mine says things like, "buy you a treat".

Hers says things like, "squeeze your butt".

These aren't things we just unilaterally decided to start doing. These are things we have learned our partner wants us to do for them. These are things that help them feel loved.

Over the past 2 years Kelli and I have continually pushed ourselves to be better.

We have lost a pile of weight. We communicate more consistently throughout the day. We have sex more frequently. We simplified our groceries, clothes, and house. We created a renewed set of vows (our couple bubble agreement). We created a set of rules to improve how we communicate with each other. We are better at controlling our tempers. We are practicing how to be more focused and intentional. We are much quicker to let each other know what we are thinking or worrying about. We are hiking and camping more. We have started going to the gym.

That list looks huge but I am sure I am even forgetting a few things.

We simply improve one thing at a time. As soon as we master one thing, we add a new challenge. We slowly raise the bar on our expectations for ourselves and for each other and watch our progress compound.

Our journey is nowhere close to done. Each step we take brings us closer to being the perfect partner for each other.

What We Have Been Reading

“Excess effort is inevitable when you pick up a new skill. But competence improves once you learn to get more out of each movement and prune the wasted ones, which is why excellence can look so easy.”

— David Parell


“You don't need enough courage for the entire journey. You only need courage for a few seconds to overcome self-doubt before you take the next step.”

— Shane Parrish


“All the returns in life, whether in wealth, relationships, or knowledge, come from compound interest.”

— Naval Ravikant

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Written and published by Nathan & Kelli.


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The purpose of “The Couple Project” is to learn more about what makes a strong marriage or relationship. We share what we are learning, which ideas we are trying, and which ideas helped improve our relationship. We realize not everything that works for us will work for you, but we still hope you will find our journey valuable.

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