Better Together: Love Your Life—Every. Single. Morning.

Welcome to Better Together. The only newsletter focused on showing you how amazing your marriage can be, and not afraid to tell you what it really takes to get there. Each week we give you a brief glimpse into our lives and three potentially life-changing ideas to help you become a better partner. We hope that you will find this newsletter inspirational and practical.

We believe that “close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives.” [1] We believe that by strengthening marriages, and families, we can improve the world at large.

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1. the Grant Study, a 75-year-long Harvard research project on human development

From Our Lives

Every day, Kelli and I wake up at 5 am, ask each other how we slept, shower, brush our teeth, weigh ourselves, make the bed, pray together, have a nice long hug and kiss, get dressed, write in our journals (which includes recording things we are grateful for), and then going over our plans for the day.

Every day, our mornings start almost identically. Weekdays, weekends, holidays, even our vacations.

Why? Because we want to start our mornings together. We want to review yesterday, so that we can plan how to make today even better.

We are firm believers that one of the best mental health hacks is to be productive. (Which isn’t the same as being busy.)

For us, being productive starts with consistent morning rituals. Then agreeing on what we are each trying to accomplish today. Getting to work. And taking time to recognize our accomplishments and the other blessings we receive in our lives.

This has been our morning ritual for about a year now. And we really believe it has transformed us into much more productive and happier people.

What We Have Been Reading

“We are usually much more willing to entertain the possibility that we are wrong about insignificant matters than about weighty ones. This has a certain emotional logic, but it is deeply lacking in garden-variety logic. In high-stakes situations, we should want to do everything possible to ensure that we are right—which, as we will see, we can only do by imagining all the ways we could be wrong.”

“Being Wrong” by Kathryn Schulz

“Much of our mental distress and negative thinking comes from feeling uncertain and out-of-control about our lives. Once you start taking action toward finding your passion, you’ll have more and more mental clarity and peace of mind.”

— “Decluttering Your Mind” by S.J. Scott and Barrie Davenport

“How do you show someone you really hear them? This is where things get interesting. The truly good listeners of the world do more than just listen. They listen, seek to understand, and then validate. That third point is the secret sauce—the magic ingredient.”

— “I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships” By Michael S. Sorensen

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Written and published by Nathan & Kelli.

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The purpose of “The Couple Project” is to learn more about what makes a strong marriage or relationship. We share what we are learning, which ideas we are trying, and which ideas helped improve our relationship. We realize not everything that works for us will work for you, but we still hope you will find our journey valuable.

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