Better Together: Don't settle—be better, expect better.

written by Nathan & Kelli

Welcome to Better Together. The only newsletter focused on showing you how amazing your marriage can be, and not afraid to tell you what it really takes to get there. Each week we give you a brief glimpse into our lives and three potentially life-changing ideas to help you become a better partner. We hope that you will find this newsletter inspirational and practical.

We believe that “close relationships, more than money or fame, are what keep people happy throughout their lives.” [1] We believe that by strengthening marriages, and families, we can improve the world at large.

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1. the Grant Study, a 75-year-long Harvard research project on human development

From Our Lives

Sundays are when we take our teenage son out to practice driving.

Today though I had a worry going through my head. Traffic was going to be worse (4th of July), and I was nervous about our son driving in that heavier traffic. I started to think we should just cancel our driving today.

But when we went out to drive, the traffic was actually no different than usual.

Stories, we all tell them to ourselves. We see things from a certain perspective. We use these stories justify our actions. These stories give us permission not to try.

It takes strength and humility to question them. Are they serving us? Or are they getting in the way of learning and growing? Even stories that are true, aren't necessarily helpful.

What We Have Been Reading

“Nothing will change your future trajectory like your habits. While goals rely on extrinsic motivation, habits, once formed, are automatic. They literally rewire our brains.”

Farnam Street

“Don't partner with cynics and pessimists. Their beliefs are self-fulfilling.”

Naval Ravikant

“A surprisingly effective way to get what you want is to not settle for less than what you want.

It doesn't always work—you can't force the world to be a certain way—and you may need healthy doses of patience and doggedness, but your life bends toward what you accept.”

— James Clear

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Written and published by Nathan & Kelli.


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The purpose of “The Couple Project” is to learn more about what makes a strong marriage or relationship. We share what we are learning, which ideas we are trying, and which ideas helped improve our relationship. We realize not everything that works for us will work for you, but we still hope you will find our journey valuable.

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